tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6411124129075353401.post4864582885611468245..comments2023-08-07T02:14:12.277-07:00Comments on The Daze of Us: SAHMs - Heavy Weight Champs or Bullies?melyssahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01984914375593665050noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6411124129075353401.post-66312569739763153702012-09-20T07:44:46.426-07:002012-09-20T07:44:46.426-07:00Aw, thanks, Amanda! Thanks for taking the time to ...Aw, thanks, Amanda! Thanks for taking the time to find me; I appreciate your words. :)melyssahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01984914375593665050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6411124129075353401.post-6409261216190870272012-09-20T06:08:48.641-07:002012-09-20T06:08:48.641-07:00I looked up your blog because I really loved your ...I looked up your blog because I really loved your article "Mommy Wars". I want to share it with all my friends. What you said about loving your kids by putting them in public school, or even giving them away...well I guess I've known a few women who have done that, or should have done that-and that was my estimation of it too. They would make that hard choice if they loved them enough. I've been a SAHMS (Stay At Home MOM Snob) more than once in my life. I've felt superior, and I've neglected my kids while simultaneously living every waking (and sometimes sleeping) hour with them. (Farmville is the devil) I can't wait until we accept other mothers for where they are in their lives. I can't wait until we accept other Christians for where they are...maybe it won't happen on this side of heaven. Thanks for the encouragement, I'll be sharing it.Amanda Richardsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6411124129075353401.post-76261750059330875972012-09-16T21:50:32.576-07:002012-09-16T21:50:32.576-07:00i appreciate you speaking up on this issue, friend...i appreciate you speaking up on this issue, friend. bravo!Mommy Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09989213786947802537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6411124129075353401.post-45261100913762392862012-09-13T10:09:44.296-07:002012-09-13T10:09:44.296-07:00There can be a balance. I think there has to be. I...There can be a balance. I think there has to be. I think that the women who DO NOT have some piece of themselves existing outside of their home (whether it's a hobby, good friendships, a career, etc.) are the ones who lose themselves, grow bitter and unpleasant for everyone. On the flipside though, the women who work so much and are all about their job, and unavailable to their family- this yields the same results. <br />But absolutely, ya'll. Let's stop hating because someone's choice/situation is different. Mistyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09505420894898738638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6411124129075353401.post-75012477099783974922012-09-13T07:56:52.840-07:002012-09-13T07:56:52.840-07:00Yay for glorious days! so glad you are where you l...Yay for glorious days! so glad you are where you love to be!melyssahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01984914375593665050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6411124129075353401.post-27503104703493890912012-09-13T07:56:05.728-07:002012-09-13T07:56:05.728-07:00Thanks for inspiring me, Mrs Darcy!Thanks for inspiring me, Mrs Darcy!melyssahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01984914375593665050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6411124129075353401.post-44251218682943261062012-09-13T03:58:05.640-07:002012-09-13T03:58:05.640-07:00Hi Melyssa! I've read this post several times ...Hi Melyssa! I've read this post several times now and have been struggling to formulate a coherent comment. But YES, I've certainly found myself hit over the head by women on both sides of this debate. I suppose that's the danger of trying to navigate a middle road, huh?<br /><br />I appreciate your thoughtful reflection. Thanks for your efforts to bridge the gap. Anne @ Modern Mrs Darcyhttp://modernmrsdarcy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6411124129075353401.post-28892151765638541492012-09-11T10:14:38.203-07:002012-09-11T10:14:38.203-07:00I was a working mom desperate to be home and fell ...I was a working mom desperate to be home and fell into situation #1...sorta. We weren't under employed, we were over-mortgaged. I was in a MOPS group of about 45 other women who all stayed at home, I was the only working mom, and though they were gracious, it was still a hard place to be just in my own heart. We finally sold the house at the end of last year, at a loss, and are renting a small place and I am home. It is just as glorious as I was hoping - not perfect or lacking in hard days by any means, but I'm so thrilled to be here and after a few months, I landed a work at home job, among some other sides jobs. So having been a full time working mom, a SAHM, a work from home mom and having just added homeschooling, I try my hardest to be confident in our choices, while allowing for others to make theirs, without judgement. Like you said, some have reasons for not being home that could be painful to explain for a variety of reasons. Some don't have any desire to be home and that's the beauty of choice. Glad to read a balanced perspective!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14041149764607579445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6411124129075353401.post-35187126696726104952012-09-11T10:00:40.389-07:002012-09-11T10:00:40.389-07:00"When I was a stay at home mom, I didn't ..."When I was a stay at home mom, I didn't miss a moment of my kids life, but I mess up a few..." Those are great, humbling words! I feel like that sometimes. <br /><br />You've transitioned beautifully!melyssahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01984914375593665050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6411124129075353401.post-69011481667816489432012-09-11T09:55:35.915-07:002012-09-11T09:55:35.915-07:00Great summary,I work part time and I think it help...Great summary,I work part time and I think it helps my boys be more responsible and keeps me more sane!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6411124129075353401.post-38481948920015092312012-09-10T20:48:19.781-07:002012-09-10T20:48:19.781-07:00I think, Aerie, you're a perfect example of th...I think, Aerie, you're a perfect example of the one contant in life; it changes. And we can either change with it as positively as we can (like you do) or we can drag our feet and make everybody miserable and watch it go by without us. Because go by it will!<br />Women often only have two choices when they become single moms, and when confronted with welfare or work, they have to make the choice they can live with at the time. Not easy and not our business to judge those decisions. Ever.karlyneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00214080675214068190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6411124129075353401.post-59834062183938978732012-09-10T17:14:15.079-07:002012-09-10T17:14:15.079-07:00Having been on both ends of this pendulum swing, I...Having been on both ends of this pendulum swing, I agree! There is beauty and struggle with ANY situation you are in as a parent. I am lucky enough to have been surrounded by people who are supportive and encouraging no matter my choices. When I was a SAHM, I didn't miss a moment of my kids life, but I did mess up a few by being short tempered and tired. Now that I work and only have the kids part time, my heart aches for those lost times, but I appreciate nearly every second with the kids and make the most of it.AerBrookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07599069186502444185noreply@blogger.com